Things Every Woman Should Have & Know by 30

So I’ve heard people talking about this topic on the radio shows I listen to in the morning (I literally switch in between 3 different shows every morning prior to arriving at work) and I never quite caught the whole segment any one place so I decided to look it up myself as the topic sounded interesting.

It’s a list from Glamour magazine printed in ’97 that became wildly popular, so they just released a book about it with essays from women. This information has been re-posted from

*List excerpted from Glamour‘s “Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know By The Time She’s 30.”

Read and excerpt from the book here.

Since I’ll be leaving 30 behind in just a few months, I figured it might be worthwhile to review this list and see how I’m doing. Plus, if you didn’t notice, my blog title is 30Story – so it’s kinda a good fit. My responses to each item is in green font.

30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know

By 30, you should have …

1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.

I definitely have an X that reminds me how far I’ve come. I’m not sure I have anyone in my life I can imagine going back to just because i can think of all the reasons it wouldn’t work. Does it count if the man I married was someone I returned to after a brief dating stint years ago? 🙂

2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.

Yes! I have this. The hubby and I have several pieces of new furniture we’ve picked out together for our home.

3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
Absolutely. I have several nice suits for the employer.  And a few great dresses for when the hubby decides he wants to whisk me away for a surprise evening (still waiting for that one to happen! In his defense, he is simply terrible at keeping secrets in order to actually surprise me).

4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.

Yes, yes, and yes. But I’ll put it out there that my suitcase is hot pink and I love it.

5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.

6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
I have a few juicy things – but I didn’t live on the wild side too much in my life…but I’m okay with that because I had a blast and those stories will be fun to re-tell.

7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
We have a savings account. I have a 401k and I hope that counts.

8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
Yes. My hubby and I have joint bank accounts but I have a separate account that is just for me (and he has one for him). It is nice so I don’t have to feel guilty when I decide I want to spend all my fun money at once on a pair of shoes. 🙂

9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
Absolutely. Resumes are what I do for a living – so you better believe I have a good resume!

10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
I am blessed with many amazing friends that would allow me to do both all in the same session if i wanted.

11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
I’m doing good on this one, too . I hope it counts if my husband is the one who brought the power tools into the marriage.

12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
My bed frame was ridiculously expensive but I love it madly, truly and deeply.

13. The belief that you deserve it.
I believed it when I bought it, still believe it now.

14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
Hmm, I’m not sure i have a skin-care regimen other than – try to wash my face every night if i don’t get in the shower. haha But I do have a pretty legit exercise routine that is helping me plan for those “other facets of life” after 30.

15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
I’m good here on both accounts.
By 30, you should know …

1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
I finally figured this one out a few years ago.

2. How you feel about having kids.
It’s funny, even 5-6 years ago I wasn’t really sure how i felt. Now I’m 100% sure that I want kids. Okay…well at least A kid. Not so positive about the plural.

3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
Yes – i have experience doing all of these things. But i still dislike all of them.

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
I’d say I learned my lesson about 20 fold on this one in my early to mid 20’s. I’d like to say I’m much better at this now.

5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
Wouldn’t you like to know?

6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
Hmmm, I know the secretary of state, and a nick name for my great grandmother on my mom’s side. Couldn’t tell you about my dads side because we didn’t really hang out with them very much. I sort of lose on this one, I don’t get things tailored hardly ever. But if i were to get something tailored I would know where to go.

7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.

Yes. I got to do this for a small period of time in my life!

8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
I wear multiple hats on this one. Sometimes I like to be alone, sometimes I need one of my friends. Many times, I just want a book to lose myself in. 🙂

9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.

Unfortunately, I’m aware of this.

10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.

11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
I’m not sure anybody knows their real limits until they are pushed, do they?

12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
Crap, I have a dentist appointment on Monday. They always lecture me about flossing. Last time, the lady told me I should floss in my car at stop lights on the way to work. I think that sounds a) gross b) crazy. Apparently, I’d rather not floss on a regular  basis. It’s so boring.

13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
Yup. Learned a few times the hard way.

14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
I still need to work on this one.

15. Why they say life begins at 30
I’m excited to say I’m beginning to believe this in a lot of ways. I think my 30’s are going to be the best decade yet.


So i guess I’m off to a good start. Maybe just a few things that i should work on apparently. But 30 has been pretty awesome so far, I’m assuming 31 is only going to get better. I’m ready.



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